Why We Shouldn’t Feel Guilty for Not Being a Girl Boss All of the Time

As an independent twenty-something, career focused woman, I am constantly striving to do better. To achieve more, to smash my goals and ultimately attain the best lifestyle I can. Social media constantly hypes up being the ultimate Girl Boss and it provides us with all the inspiration and motivation we need to keep going.

After all success is all about working our arses off, right?

WRONG!

Success is about working our arses off, finding a balance and enjoying life to the fullest!

That isn’t possible if we are burnt out and run down from working constantly. I have a real love / hate relationship with the term Girl Boss. Most days I find it inspiring, motivating and it often makes me feel really fired up to achieve my goals. Obviously that’s the whole concept behind it, but on the other hand, I feel as though there is a negative aspect and added pressure that comes attached with it. One that tells us we must constantly be busy or that we have to always be doing something. That there aren’t enough hours in the day to achieve our goals and we need to work harder.

I completely agree that we need to work hard, but being full of sass and #GirlBossing our way through life is great, until we give into the pressure of being one ALL the time.

I also feel as though there is some form of judgement on social media (and even in real life sometimes) that if we slow down or take a break then we are being lazy. Which is just absolutely ridiculous!

Firstly, we don’t need to prove to anyone how hard we are working. We all work at our own pace, achieving things at the right time for each of us. Secondly, it’s ok to stop and take a break, it’s ok to slow down and take some time for ourselves. In fact, it’s essential if we want to achieve all of our goals – definitely NOT lazy!

Our bodies don’t function properly when they aren’t looked after. We need time to rest and look after ourselves. We shouldn’t feel guilty for allowing ourselves that time, we should make the most it! This down time is our opportunity to re-focus, prioritise and regenerate all of our energy to carry on achieving our goals.

How often do we get to the weekend longing for an extra hour in bed, a chance to drink our tea while it’s still hot or to just sit in our pyjamas all day?

For me it can be quite frequently, but why is that?

For me personally, it’s normally because I haven’t taken time for myself during the week. I spoke a little bit about this in my last post about making the most of 24 hour getaways. Now I am not saying that we all don’t turn up for work on a Wednesday, just so we can have some time out. It’s more about recognising that we need a break, being completely ok with it and allowing ourselves that time to have a little break. If that comes in the form of sitting in your pyjamas all night binge watching Friends on Netflix, having an hour long bath with your face smothered in a fancy new mask or taking a couple of hours out to go and meet a friend for a coffee and a catch up, then so be it.

This year I will not feel guilty for taking a night off. I will not feel guilty for making myself a priority and looking after myself. In fact, my priorities this year will be focused on my own happiness, looking after myself and giving myself the best opportunity to achieve my goals.

What do you think about being a Girl Boss? I’d love to hear your thoughts, so please leave me a comment below!

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